Swipe. Match. Hookup. Repeat. Modern dating has become a soulless machine, and men are breaking down inside it. And these are the so-called lucky ones.

Most guys today feel like failures in relationships. And deep down, they know it’s not because of money, looks, or confidence. Something deeper is missing.

That something is God.

All the dating advice today is about getting sex faster. All the marriage advice is about power. Either dominate her or be her doormat.

No one is telling men the truth:

The problem isn’t women. The problem is your foundation.

Look around. We swipe through faces like we’re shopping for meat. Relationships feel transactional. Sex is casual. Trust is rare. Marriages die in silence. Everyone feels more alone than ever.

This isn’t an accident. It’s the predictable result of forgetting God.

When civilizations lose their moral foundation, relationships are the first to crumble. Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, who survived the Soviet gulags, understood this. When asked how such evil had overtaken Russia, he didn’t mention politics or economics. He said:

“Men have forgotten God; that’s why all this has happened.” That line also applies to dating and marriage.

When God is removed, people stop being people. They become objects. Bodies to use, resources to extract, obstacles to conquer.

Did you notice the slide in our vocabulary? We used to say “lover,” then “partner.” Now it’s “body count.”

She sees you as a means to an end. You see her as a dopamine hit. Neither of you sees the other as made in God’s image because you’ve both forgotten that there is a God.

Dating without God always leads to disconnection. Even when you’re with someone, you’re lonely. Even in marriage, you feel like strangers.

But when you put God back in His rightful place, everything changes.

The Real Problem

The answer lies in how God designed things from the start. In Genesis, we’re shown the process. Before God created anything, He first made the right environment.

Before fish, He made the sea. Before birds, He made the sky. Before man, He made Eden.

Eden isn’t a location like the United States. Eden means God’s presence. That is man’s natural environment.

A fish out of water dies. A bird out of the air is in danger. And a man outside God’s presence suffocates, spiritually first, then emotionally and relationally.

That’s the real reason for all the turmoil.

Men chase women while spiritually gasping for air, hoping physical intimacy will fill the void that only God can fill.

But the 1%? They breathe deeply in their walk with God, getting everything they need. And that changes everything.

The God-First Solution

The 1% aren’t desperate. They’re discerning. They’re not asking, “Will she sleep with me?” They’re asking, “Can I trust her character?”

That shift changes you and makes you irresistible to the right kind of woman.

I worked with a man who was in a dead-end relationship, too afraid to end it. They lived together and had their wedding date picked and everything paid for. When we started working together, I helped him see what was missing. Once he put God in His proper place first, he had the courage to end the relationship. Soon after, he met his future wife. They’re now married and expecting their first child. He almost missed what God had in store for him.

I worked with another man whose marriage was falling apart. The husband had been chasing his wife’s approval for years, hoping “happy wife, happy life” would change things. It didn’t. In fact, things were so bad that they were already aboard the train toward divorce. When I helped him stop chasing his wife’s approval and start pursuing God instead, everything changed. His posture changed. His desperation vanished. He became a man worth following, not because he demanded respect, but because he stopped living for her opinion and started living for God’s.

It’s not about abs, money, or “status.” It’s about the presence of God.

The man who walks with God doesn’t chase. “I have God, so I have all I need. If the right one comes along, I’ll pursue her. If not, I can let her go.”

That’s attractive to a woman. He can lead. He’s not confused about who he is.

Start Tonight

Stop chasing women for sex. Start seeking God’s approval. Watch how differently women respond when you’re not desperate for theirs.

This isn’t about quick fixes. It’s about repentance.